- If you don't (fill in blank), I will break every bone in your body.
- Stop that crying, or I will give you something to cry about.
- Go get my belt.
- Just wait until your father gets home, then you will get it again.
- I beat you because I love you.
Thursday, March 15, 2007
Top 5 things I will never say to my child
As a kid, I learned to be good under threat of grievous bodily harm. Dad's statements of consequences were more promises than threats, whereas Mom's statements were generally idle threats. But in the brain of a 7 year old, they elicited vivid images of the actions they described. I am deeply terrified that I will become my parents in this sense. I really don't want my child to fear me the way that I feared my parents. So I have compiled a short list of the statements I heard as a kid and promise never, ever, to say to my child.