Wednesday, April 25, 2007

To be continued...

To be continued once I am able to screw my head back on...

...hmmm, now where did I put my drugs?

P.S. Thank you for your comments on my last post,"WWBD". You may notice that I have removed it, but I promise to repost it in due time. I am just feeling very vulnerable at this point. But, I greatly appreciate everyone's candid and raw responses. Compassionate honesty is a sign of trust and friendship. For that, I am grateful.

Updated 4/26/07: I continue to be vulnerable, but I put the post back up. The last group of people I ever want to hide from is you all. Somewhere in this world, I need a spot to be genuine, and this is it.

20 comments:

infertilemertil said...

Well, crap. You removed your post before I had a chance to post my response. I personally laughed out loud at "would you like a beer with that?" I have decided that if my IVF cycle doesn't work, I'm just going to become a crack whore. From what I've seen, that seems to work for a lot of people.

I realize this comment was in bad taste, but I promise I was just joking.

Aurelia said...

I want you to put it back. IMO, it's important to recognize the rough spots along the journey, not just the smooth parts.

The bitter, the sweet, all the truth of it.

In the meantime, sweet dreams.

Jackie said...

Nicole, I can barely contain myself when I see anyone smoking much less a pregnant person. Why is it that in the most difficult times we are forced to see and hear about people who do not seem to appreciate the wonderful gift of a child?
I hope things get better for you soon. And I really hope people wise up.

KansasSunflower said...

Oh...Nicole. :( I was going to post, but I won't because I know what it's like to get comments and then feel incredibly vulnerable.

You're an awesome lady, Nicole. :-)

Renee said...

Hang in there kiddo...you're doing so well.

I've never been where you are right now...but I'm sure that if I had just lost a baby and I saw a preg woman smoking that she wouldn't have a mouth to smoke with anymore.

Ol' Lady said...

hey Nicole...just wanted you to know that I have been around...just not sayin too much...
I know your pain and hope you get some closure within yourself soon. I'm usually lurkin around at least once a day somewhere, if you want a shoulder to cry on...email me...I'll be there for ya

Bumble said...

I thought it was a great post. Why shouldn't you be annoyed? But I won't go into it again, I've just brushed the hairs on the back of my neck down again.

Oh, and I agree... you are definitely one awesome lady, thats for sure x

thirdtimelucky said...

Just I quick one to say I understand (at least some of it). I could hardly bear to be around pregnant women after my miscarriages so good knows what it would have done if one of them was smoking.

Venusuvian Debs said...

Thank you for the kind words. I actually wanted to mail you personally, cause I have a couple of questions you may be able to help me out with. If you don't mind and don't feel that I am stalking you (Promise I'm not) please email me on dstander@computassist.co.za.
I'd really appreciate it.

Sara said...

I don't know what happened, but I hope you put it back, and I hope you don't think that whatever response you got to the missing post implies anything about your thoughts or your grief. It may have been abotu being cranky, but it was a pretty darn normal crankiness...

LIW (Lady In Waiting) said...

I didn't find anything wrong with your post at all and actually felt relieved to know that someone else has such visceral reactions to someone who at least appears to take the miracle of her pregnancy lightly. I am the very first person to embrace tolerance and acceptance and understanding of people's actions (as was promoted in many of the comments to your post) but I also believe that we need to work through all of the feelings that come our way, whether or not they are accepting and loving.

Your feelings were/are valid and you have the right to post about them. Don't deny yourself that.

You are in my thoughts!

niobe said...

I missed your post, but I'd love to see it, if/when you feel comfortable enough to put it back up.

Casey said...

Feel better soon, Nicole.

Cibele said...

I did not have a change to read it. I hope you put it back. Just want to say that I think of you often and that I wish you all the happiness in the world. It has been a pleasure to get to know you.

Dino aka Katy said...

i wouldn't worry about comments - we understand hope you feel better soon

Sara said...

Hope your screwing is going well so far. Does this mean your taking a blog break? I'll miss you.

Take care.

My Reality said...

I am glad you are showing the genuine you. I think the genuine you is fantastic, strong, interesting and courageous. I am glad you put your post back up.

Rosepetal said...

I would have said something like "please could you go outside to smoke?"

Seriously does your OB's waiting room not even have a no smoking sign??

A few years ago I was once furious when someone was smoking at the hairdressers!

Jenny F. Scientist said...

I sympathize; I always want to smack people upside the head and yell 'What are you thinking!?!???' Sadly a socially unacceptable (and maybe not so useful, for them) response.

I hope your doctor's appointment went well.

Somewhat Ordinary said...

I'm glad you put that post back up! I have you in bloglines, but neither of these showed up until late last night! Weird!

I hope you start feeling better soon!