Friday, December 7, 2007

Grumpy, Sleepy, and Dopey.

OK, so mainly I am grumpy with hints of sleepy and dopey to keep things interesting. As a disclaimer, especially for my husband who is sure to read this, this post is focused on my total and complete dislike for my sister-in-law (Husband's sister).

I started a private non-anonymous blog for my family (mom and 3 sisters) and Husband's family (mom and 1 sister). The sole purpose of that blog is to keep the family updated on my gestational progress or lack thereof, whatever the case may be. My hope is that someday I will have pictures to post on that blog of something slightly more interesting to the family than images of our dogs (screen size photos of my cooter perhaps?). Compared to this blog, they are getting the extremely edited version of how things are going "down there". But, on that blog, Husband is a contributor and writes the occasional post. The blog is only visible to the aforementioned family members by invitation. So far I have issued an invitation to all of them. After a few technical problems, the Moms were able to figure out how to sign up and make comments. My sisters, with the exception of the one with a painful drug problem and absolutely no ability in any sense to figure out how to get online, have all signed up and visited.

Then there's The Sister-In-Law. This woman lives on-line for the most part. In fact, she would out-online almost all my bloggie buddies by hours. She is fully technically competent on the computer and has absolutely no trouble using all of the web services available. In fact, she uses said services to send daily reminders to her brother, my husband, about his failure to visit her and his mom on a regular (read to mean ALL of the TIME) basis. She is famous for her comments that imply that he has effectively abandoned them in favor of his wife (me). SIL also revels in reminding Husband that he has only ONE family. Plus, she complains that we never communicate with them or update them on how we are doing. Nevertheless, the invitation to our blog has gone unanswered. It's been two weeks since I sent the invite. I am so angry that I would love to take a photo of my middle finger and send it to her, or stick a fork in her eye (you choose).

We have explored the idea that she isn't really all that happy that her brother's wife is pregnant, despite her outright assertions to the contrary. But, come on, if I can pretend to want her to be informed of our lives, then certainly she can maintain the illusion that she is interested in ours by at least accepting the invitation.

11 comments:

Aurelia said...

Ohhhh, this is frustrating.

So, my question is, are you sure she got it? Only because spam catchers are getting extra aggressive these days, and maybe it got stuck somewhere?

And if she DID get it and isn't commenting, then maybe she's checking anyway, but hasn't said much? Can you see her on statcounter?

Of course, I could be completely wrong and she is just bitch...

Barbara said...

I feel for you with the in-laws, I've had in-law trouble for 21 years now, it never gets any better.

Nicole said...

Good to see you again, Barbara! And, it's also nice to know that I am not alone in in-law Hell.

Aurelia-good questions. Maybe it was blocked out by spam. Husband will check on that. But, it's impossible to see the blog without registering and being an approved user. This keeps my sisters and his mom from giving out the blog address to whomever they feel is worthy.

thrice said...

Visiting from in-law hell. Don't try, because it never gets better, until they know that they don't exist in your world. For instance, if you are angry, which you have every right to be, then they feel some type of accomplishment and will continue to anger you.

Sorry to blather. Does that make sense?

Cibele said...

I have a SIL that is as difficult as yours. I just learned to ignore her and be happy... I dont need her for this, and neither does you. She si the one missing out

Sarah said...

she sucks. sounds like she's loaded with issues.

i love the "pretend to want her to be informed/maintain the illusion of interest" bit!! ah, family.

Julia said...

I would probably forget to mention any interesting news in phone or personal conversations with her, and if she got pissy about you not telling her in person, I might pull the whole "o, so much has happened. but I was sure you knew all of that, since we posted this stuff on the blog." But I am mean. :)

Mary Stebbins Taitt said...

AK!

In laws can be so difficult.

Good luck with this!

Dino aka Katy said...

thank goodness I only have a BIL and I like his wife we get along great I think its because her mom is German so we were raised the same way.

Cate said...

This is why I love the fact that my in-laws live all the way across the country. They are too lazy to meddle too much and never visit.

Caro said...

I guess this is one time when it's good that S is an only child, I have enough trouble with my MIL any more family might be too much to handle.

Good luck with your sil.