tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post5279828935301178763..comments2023-10-15T03:26:52.884-05:00Comments on Just crazy enough to try: Bare arms.Nicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01904286943340898221noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-91621480449302304222007-05-30T20:49:00.000-05:002007-05-30T20:49:00.000-05:00Sweetie, I hope that after your husband got home ...Sweetie, I hope that after your husband got home from golf and you read some of the comments from all of these wonderful women, that you now feel a little less shameful about your scars.<BR/><BR/>I used to not really understand cutting, but have had a personal glimpse into those feelings and actions, and think I may understand a little tiny bit. My experience was only involved making many long 'scratches' on my arms or belly that left red welts for a week or so, but didn't really involve bleeding much. And i know this probably sounds so minor to you, but I wanted you to know that I really hope that you can try to let go of some of the shame you feel about you scars. Just love yourself for getting through the hard days.SWHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06571144622886527378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-70210439896105552152007-05-30T14:06:00.000-05:002007-05-30T14:06:00.000-05:00i'm with ol'lady - probably 'cause i'm an ol' lady...i'm with ol'lady - probably 'cause i'm an ol' lady too. people really should keep their stupid mouths shut - people can't help but wonder, but only a moron is going to open their mouth and ask such a personal question. i kind of like berrybird's "adopted a feral cat" response - it might be worthwhile to respond if that will be the answer. it makes me laugh just thinking about their reaction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-22799362184184329972007-05-30T13:46:00.000-05:002007-05-30T13:46:00.000-05:00oh you poor thing. i'm glad you share with us. it ...oh you poor thing. i'm glad you share with us. it actually shows that you are healthier than you think. You tell us because you know you need to hold yourself accountable. <BR/>i'm glad those are "scars" and not current wounds.The Oneliner (Christina)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03997049405594118170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-50012589930412404972007-05-30T08:13:00.000-05:002007-05-30T08:13:00.000-05:00You have received some amazing responses here so I...You have received some amazing responses here so I am not sure that I have anything to add but...<BR/><BR/>My ex (who, as you know, was bipolar and not consistently on meds) was a cutter as well, though not actively while we were together. She had significant scarring on her arms, especially on her left one. The first time she showed them to me, I kissed them with a heart bursting with love and forgiveness. My hope was that she could absorb some of my emotions and feel them towards herself.<BR/><BR/>Those scars represent the road of survival. Like others have said, you have no obligation to explain them to others. What's important is that you accept them as part of you and find the strength to leave them as they are, without adding to them.<BR/><BR/>Please reach out to someone when you feel like cutting. You can always email me.....LIW (Lady In Waiting)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06199047053421154823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-20644070287622916492007-05-29T21:20:00.000-05:002007-05-29T21:20:00.000-05:00That's must be scary to wonder when you might do i...That's must be scary to wonder when you might do it again and how badly. I'd be scared anyway. <BR/><BR/>If I was there I would hug you! <BR/><BR/>((((Nicole))))<BR/><BR/>Being gently held and loved usually helps me when I'm scared or depressed. I hope there is someone clsoe enough to give you real physical hugs! You deserve them!Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-86549700800176087022007-05-29T10:22:00.000-05:002007-05-29T10:22:00.000-05:00Those scars are reminders of the past--and also a ...Those scars are reminders of the past--and also a reminder to push forward! Let them be a positive reinforcement for the good and positive times. Such a brave post--keep your chin up!! xoxoJJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18027548058304720360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-29000261607796197082007-05-29T07:18:00.000-05:002007-05-29T07:18:00.000-05:00There is stuff called "Mederma" and it is suppose ...There is stuff called "Mederma" and it is suppose to do wonders.<BR/><BR/>I agree with what everyone says here...<BR/><BR/>It was very courageous of you to write this post and I would think it will just make you even more strong. :)Bleeding Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02689816555725078811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-64502679083530734622007-05-29T02:21:00.000-05:002007-05-29T02:21:00.000-05:00I'm reading your comments and hoping that you are ...I'm reading your comments and hoping that you are feeling the love, life can be hard and I'm sorry that it has to be this way. You are incredibly strong and just so amazing, I'll keep you in my prayers and thoughts, you can do this sweetie, all this will be worth it. Hugs xxxTamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06303045874725602201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-5091574423949591552007-05-28T11:17:00.000-05:002007-05-28T11:17:00.000-05:00i don't have many words for you right now, Nicole ...i don't have many words for you right now, Nicole other than to reiterate what some of the other more eloquent commenters have already said. you are a strong and corageous woman. i admire your strength and can only hope that i'm half as strong as you. take care of yourself. sending you big hugs.meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13867137276917406552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-19108426475651919672007-05-28T10:47:00.000-05:002007-05-28T10:47:00.000-05:00I am a cutter. I know exactly how you feel and wha...I am a cutter. I know exactly how you feel and what you have/are going through. I am a lurker on here but I enjoy reading your blog especially b/c I can feel your pain. The medication, trying to get pregnant, etc, etc. I've been there. My heart goes out to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-44098510963389408012007-05-28T08:34:00.000-05:002007-05-28T08:34:00.000-05:00Hmm, I dunno about you but to me those scars shoul...Hmm, I dunno about you but to me those scars should represent success, not failure or embarrasement. Your scars are that -- scars. They are not new cuts but more a symbol of recovery. Though it can only be incredibly difficult for everyone else to understand, this summer could also be a venue for you to educate others who may not know the pains of bipolar disorder. <BR/><BR/>So wear your scars as a symbol of growth and an opportunity to save others.<BR/><BR/>Anns xoAnnshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05561673371099391034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-64216758119580854952007-05-28T05:28:00.000-05:002007-05-28T05:28:00.000-05:00Hugs my sweet friend. You're such an amazing and ...Hugs my sweet friend. You're such an amazing and brave woman. I'm sorry for what you've been through and I'm here for you. xJWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07000365791603789983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-26968775689225749132007-05-28T00:45:00.000-05:002007-05-28T00:45:00.000-05:00Dear Friend... Just want to send you a big hug and...Dear Friend... Just want to send you a big hug and say that I admire you a lot for being so brave to write this post, for letting us in, for being honest... I wish you peace and happiness.Cibelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02361386515177047271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-33457389640187558022007-05-27T21:32:00.000-05:002007-05-27T21:32:00.000-05:00You are a brave, stong woman, Nicole. You have co...You are a brave, stong woman, Nicole. You have conquered so much. Hugs to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-19376710730989821812007-05-27T18:49:00.000-05:002007-05-27T18:49:00.000-05:00really great and brave post. we all have scars, bu...really great and brave post. we all have scars, but not all of us have to deal with them being so visible. if only more people who see yours would shut up and be reminded of their own scars that they wear on the inside and respect you for dealing with all the struggles you have dealt with. you are a brave survivor! hang in there...marlena rivershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03230918990270702938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-30030015247691252102007-05-27T18:06:00.000-05:002007-05-27T18:06:00.000-05:00I can understand where your coming from...and hope...I can understand where your coming from...and hopefully you don't go back there.<BR/>I hate it when anyone asks me something personal especially if they don't have any need to know...that would be why it's called 'personal' I usually stare at them for a moment with a blank look on my face then I ask them if they really think that the answer is any of their business...and what would they do with the information...will it make a difference in anything. <BR/>But that's just me...over the years I have gotten less interested in being around anyone so if I offend them (after they have offended me) then oh well...Ol' Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02278147631180576039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-39120054223465037292007-05-27T13:56:00.000-05:002007-05-27T13:56:00.000-05:00I don't have anything to add to what others have a...I don't have anything to add to what others have already said except - continue being as strong as you are. You will get through this. And we are there for you.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-27970400300805267872007-05-27T13:21:00.000-05:002007-05-27T13:21:00.000-05:00I used to cut, and still have the scars. For years...I used to cut, and still have the scars. For years I wore long sleeves, then decided that this was drawing even more attention than the scars themselves. I used to be very self-conscious about it. But it has been so long since I have cut, I have started to have times when I completely forget about my scars. And then someone will ask me if I have a cat, etc., and I will remember. I get embarrassed, but I am not ashamed. There is a difference. Cutting is not the worst thing a person could do. I didn't hurt anyone else.Jean Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13826037279061710386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-42284036717154855902007-05-27T12:05:00.000-05:002007-05-27T12:05:00.000-05:00((((Nicole))))Stay strong, sweetie. Your inlaws s...((((Nicole))))<BR/><BR/>Stay strong, sweetie. Your inlaws sound just plain mean. I think I'd be tempted to make up obvious and shifting lies, so that every time they ask, they get a different bullshit story... I was rock climbing... I adopted a feral cat... I got washed onto a coral reef... I fed the bears...BerryBirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01688522956177325844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-58933670942413281692007-05-27T11:27:00.000-05:002007-05-27T11:27:00.000-05:00You are indeed a very brave and strong woman to po...You are indeed a very brave and strong woman to post this - and I appreciate it more than you know.<BR/><BR/>Thank you.Tarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18384206429432741119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-83766482791309283262007-05-27T07:09:00.000-05:002007-05-27T07:09:00.000-05:00Yes, it's a recipe for disaster but we don't have ...Yes, it's a recipe for disaster but we don't have to cook it today.<BR/><BR/>(((((((((Nicole))))))))Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03293649194823360181noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-24982189551722259522007-05-26T23:48:00.000-05:002007-05-26T23:48:00.000-05:00Nicole - I am a new reader to your page and I was ...Nicole - I am a new reader to your page and I was drawn to your experiences and writing the moment I clicked in. I too am bipolar and my diagnosis is very new (few months) It went untreated and misdiagnosed for so long. There is a string of broken friendships and lost jobs, much pain, shame and self hate lying behind me now. Today I have two beautiful daughters (14 mos and 3.5 yrs old) and a good husband who has passed up many opportunities to bolt for the door. I do not write a lot about bipolar on my blog yet, I am still so unsure and confused - I hope you will visit my page sometime. I wish you luck, happiness and peace of mind. There is nothing more important than the peace right? Anyway, you hold on girl, today you have one more friend and one more person pulling for you to succeed ! I will be back to your page often to check in! I hope we could share some insights in the future!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-16293607158352847532007-05-26T19:10:00.000-05:002007-05-26T19:10:00.000-05:00I find extremely vigorous exercise to be a nice su...I find extremely vigorous exercise to be a nice substitute to cutting/other methods of self-destruction.<BR/><BR/>If you need to talk to someone, I'm pretty much always around.Caseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16513928061453431024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-1749923669929961242007-05-26T14:22:00.000-05:002007-05-26T14:22:00.000-05:00For what it's worth, I have never noticed. I thou...For what it's worth, I have never noticed. I thought you were looking really good the other day, very sharp. That was my impression.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-11773343564999362082007-05-26T12:04:00.000-05:002007-05-26T12:04:00.000-05:00I hope you don't cut again, but I understand why y...I hope you don't cut again, but I understand why you did. I understand the shame you feel when looking at them, but not why your in-laws are on the side of emotional pain.Rosepetalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11198906406934870970noreply@blogger.com