tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post4238302071058932052..comments2023-10-15T03:26:52.884-05:00Comments on Just crazy enough to try: Uncomfortably NumbNicolehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01904286943340898221noreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-91761582243842388282007-03-30T09:30:00.000-05:002007-03-30T09:30:00.000-05:00I came across your blog and wanted to say how incr...I came across your blog and wanted to say how incredibly sorry I am for your loss.ultimatejourneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01385256618267945461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-3619908441018758662007-03-30T08:30:00.000-05:002007-03-30T08:30:00.000-05:00don't give up hope yet!!don't give up hope yet!!Maggshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01884353212360311004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-1880714974360571452007-03-29T21:41:00.000-05:002007-03-29T21:41:00.000-05:00I know that you wouldn't allow someone to name-cal...I know that you wouldn't allow someone to name-call your child. And personally, I don't like it when people name-call my friends. So stop name-calling yourself!!!<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I hope the above made sense.thricehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09528308384855206125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-62058251856588176492007-03-29T21:27:00.000-05:002007-03-29T21:27:00.000-05:00My thoughts and prayers are with you! It's not pat...My thoughts and prayers are with you! It's not pathetic to feel sorry for your loss, even if its your first.. losing a baby will always be difficult. *hugs*Sambalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03431366396844254056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-39336322272071620982007-03-29T20:56:00.000-05:002007-03-29T20:56:00.000-05:00hi there, again late and i apologize for the laten...hi there, again late and i apologize for the lateness. so i've caught up. and i thank you for commenting on my blog in the middle of all this. so sweet of you. i feel for you and this loss. it is not pathetic at all. it's so very real. i felt bad after my abortion that was due to being on meds and i did not even bond with the beginning embryo. so i can only imagine how hard this is. i feel close to it as my very close friend went through something very similar and i remember how excited we were about the baby. she found out around the same time as you. as i said in my last comment, she is now with her lovely 5 month old baby, so i can imagine that eventually time will heal your wounds and you can try again if you choose to. i also know of a woman who has 2 kids now and had some late pregnancy miscarriages.<BR/>but you are living through th e pain now and you are very brave. these are multiple challenges, coping with bipolar stuff, dealing with a miscarriage and then the chlamydia and revisitng past traumas of your last marriage. be good to yourself. just rest and don't pressure yourself. you need to heal your soul mind and body and that takes a lot of time and energy. <BR/>i will be thinking of you and sending you good thoughts and vibes. you are a truly special and wonderful person and i admire your courage.marlena rivershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03230918990270702938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-59449404450008037062007-03-29T20:26:00.000-05:002007-03-29T20:26:00.000-05:00hey nicole,it is thursday. i am just sending you a...hey nicole,<BR/><BR/>it is thursday. i am just sending you a hug.<BR/><BR/>((((((dancer))))))<BR/><BR/>*oh, dingo dog wants to send hugs too<BR/>(((((((dingo dog)))))))Amateur Dancerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790491450303151350noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-30359143628518923232007-03-29T15:26:00.000-05:002007-03-29T15:26:00.000-05:00Nothing you are feeling is pathetic. I don't have ...Nothing you are feeling is pathetic. I don't have any answers for you, but I'm here if you want to talk. If you can, try to give yourself a break, k?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-10850784417138158152007-03-29T15:04:00.000-05:002007-03-29T15:04:00.000-05:00Grief is ok. It is normal and natural. It is als...Grief is ok. It is normal and natural. It is also hard. Especially for those of us taught to "keep it together" lest we inconvenience anyone else. Women especially tend to bottle it up when we need to cry and rail against the world. <BR/><BR/>The thing is, sometimes grief is scary. It can overwhem us, and none of us want to be overwhelmed.<BR/><BR/>I'm very sorry for your losses. It is no fun finding out what is stolen from us when we are past being able to do something about it.<BR/><BR/>Pax,<BR/><BR/>MLOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-11867927693132120202007-03-29T08:33:00.000-05:002007-03-29T08:33:00.000-05:00I hope that you are doing well, Nicole.Thinking ab...I hope that you are doing well, Nicole.<BR/><BR/>Thinking about you and you are in my thoughts!Bleeding Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02689816555725078811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-14484871697568416322007-03-29T04:11:00.000-05:002007-03-29T04:11:00.000-05:00I remember my first miscarriage was devestating an...I remember my first miscarriage was devestating and stopped me dead in my tracks for awhile. I was more stoic with my 2nd (becuase I was full of DBT's and half expecting something to go wrong)and quite shit again with my 3rd (b/c at the time, everything was quite shit (with my 1st marriage/assh*le 1st husband), that IF & loss was quite impossible to bear. and then we stopped ttc. Oh & he gave me HPV which lead to my cervical issues, so I can relate to you on that (assh*le ex & std) level too). My 1st miscarriage had much of the same confused depth of despair reaction as the loss of my stillborn son (except the loss of my son holds way more guilt and regret and terrible memories for me) . Context was the key with my grief, not order of pregnancy or gestational length. So, I totally understand you feeling unproductive and depressed.. etal. That's normal. What happened to you sucks bigtime. It's hard. It hurts. and you don't get over it, you just get use to it. and then when you're ready, you TTC all over again. and that is the sorry truth about us IF chicks. we're sucker's for IF punishment. Much love and hugs to you Nicole darling. XXX clareClarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08186138257956053203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-36938743200090097972007-03-29T04:03:00.000-05:002007-03-29T04:03:00.000-05:00(((hugs))) and wishes for the light at the end of ...(((hugs))) and wishes for the light at the end of the tunnel.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11869813213951981071noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-13505379510783577652007-03-29T02:01:00.000-05:002007-03-29T02:01:00.000-05:00I've been lurking on your blog for a while now, yo...I've been lurking on your blog for a while now, you are welcome back to mine anytime!Warner Standerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01204636872046385257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-76455628805180663882007-03-28T23:41:00.000-05:002007-03-28T23:41:00.000-05:00my husband dealt the same way with his grief as yo...my husband dealt the same way with his grief as your is. I wallowed in it for months and couldn't seem to shake it. I hope that your dh was more understanding than mine in my constant renewal of feelings of sadness and blame. Because no matter what the reason for your miscarriage, there is always blame. And that was the hardest part for me to deal with. I couldn't stop going over and over in my mind what I could've or should've done to make the baby stay with me. It is totally normal to do this. Don't put a time limit on your healing. Because if you mom had just died, no one would be expecting you to be over it in a day. And this baby was a family member even in his/her brief existence and deserves a remembrance.Catehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18033228273412280786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-25361274778063798502007-03-28T19:39:00.000-05:002007-03-28T19:39:00.000-05:00Nicole, I think you just have to let yourself feel...Nicole, I think you just have to let yourself feel your grief. That is the fastest way through it. Just be patient with yourself, and take care of yourself. I wish there was something I could do to help you through this time.Jean Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13826037279061710386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-43373192092985920242007-03-28T18:55:00.000-05:002007-03-28T18:55:00.000-05:00Oh, Nicole. Please don't be so hard on yourself! ...Oh, Nicole. Please don't be so hard on yourself! You pain is real and natural, and the numbness is, too. Do not deny yourself the right to this grief.BerryBirdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01688522956177325844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-27500059845945432102007-03-28T10:46:00.000-05:002007-03-28T10:46:00.000-05:00it's natural and right to grieve such a loss as yo...it's natural and right to grieve such a loss as you and your husband have had, nicole. it's not pathetic in the least.<BR/>(((((nicole))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-42552664825818157232007-03-28T10:07:00.000-05:002007-03-28T10:07:00.000-05:00Grief is a hard taskmaster! I'm so sorry! It hur...Grief is a hard taskmaster! I'm so sorry! It hurts and nothing I or we can say will make the hurting stop, but time will help and as dreamwriter says, there is a light at the end of the tunnel! <BR/><BR/>(((((((hugs for Nicole)))))))))Mary Stebbins Taitthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10626507461216769140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-42174549978787509972007-03-28T10:03:00.000-05:002007-03-28T10:03:00.000-05:00Nicole, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain y...Nicole, I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you must endure to grieve this loss. It will surely take time, an amount that no soul can predict. Hugs to both you and your husband--it's so tough when both parts of the team are down at once.Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15937097841962960849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-31529548837152363112007-03-28T09:55:00.000-05:002007-03-28T09:55:00.000-05:00Hoping you see a glimmer of light on the other sid...Hoping you see a glimmer of light on the other side soon.Warner Standerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01204636872046385257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-84160053045633580282007-03-28T09:54:00.000-05:002007-03-28T09:54:00.000-05:00Loss is loss. It's NOT pathetic, hon.I am so sorry...Loss is loss. It's NOT pathetic, hon.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry that you have to feel this pain.<BR/><BR/>Wishing you love and peace right now.Serenityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17765237663006604157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-21952257072312434272007-03-28T09:06:00.000-05:002007-03-28T09:06:00.000-05:00What everyone else has said. This is total shit f...What everyone else has said. This is total shit for you. I hope you see the light soon. ((((Nicole))))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-84917217656205139192007-03-28T08:43:00.000-05:002007-03-28T08:43:00.000-05:00SO sorry to hear that you are having such a hard t...SO sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time, but glad that your husband is there to support you.... Hang in there!LIW (Lady In Waiting)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06199047053421154823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-4370551774108229032007-03-28T02:49:00.000-05:002007-03-28T02:49:00.000-05:00Please be kind to yourself, and if you need to be ...Please be kind to yourself, and if you need to be sad and cry out, go right ahead. It's the first step to feeling better. Thinking of you and hoping you pull through this truly upsetting time.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02602506060731650727noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-24109141880774295242007-03-28T00:58:00.000-05:002007-03-28T00:58:00.000-05:00Pathetic is not a word I would choose. Normal, an...Pathetic is not a word I would choose. Normal, and understandable fit the bill much better.<BR/><BR/>Take care of yourself. And let Husband take care of you, too.Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12290007044439581358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3427274822037608854.post-61298869403012872922007-03-28T00:26:00.000-05:002007-03-28T00:26:00.000-05:00Hope you don't mind me droping by but I wanted to ...Hope you don't mind me droping by but I wanted to say how sorry I was to read about your loss. xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com